I have been celibate for roughly two and a half years. Reflecting on how my last relationship ended made me realize that I was very immature for my age. This point of reflection and realization only came to be due to self-isolation.

What I leaned in my 2 years of celibacy.

Came to an understanding of how my values and ideologies were not always correct.

- I was not honest with myself about what I like and don’t like. I was not the man I thought I was.

- Based on my upbringing and the foundation I had set for me/ had be set for me, I pretended to someone I wasn’t. For year I painted a picture that didn’t match reality. The longer I painted this picture the more I brainwashed myself into thinking it’s true.

- Take a moment. Be alone for a moment. No music. No nothing. In silence. Just you and yourself.

- The best version of yourself is brought to life in those moments. Understand who you truly are. Ask yourself the difficult questions because it’s easy to take what the world says about you as the truth.

Learned to keep my circle as small and fruitful as possible.

- I made a very big mistake some time ago when I started my journey to self-mastery. Due to the awakening, I had acquired at that time, I would WASTE a lot of my time looking at other people and try to figure out how I can help them. When I should be putting all that focus on myself.

- Make sure that your circle (as small as it is) is comprised mainly of people that have skill you want to acquire.

- Disassociate with people that leave a negative impact in your life.

Found out that we all have our own opinions and that mine were not always correct.

- For years I delusionally affirmed myself that whatever it is that I believed in at that time was correct and that it applies to everyone.

- Understand that no matter how correct believe you are, there’s a great chance your still wrong. We are human we make mistakes. There will never be a time you are perfect even if you live to see 10 000 years.

Became more in touch with my emotions.

- Before my transition, I could acknowledge that I feel a certain way but was so out of touch with them that I never allowed myself to understand why I felt that way.

- Yes, emotions can easily break a man but not when used correctly.

- Identifying or being aware of how you feel at certain times will allow you to get to the root of the problem, which results in you effectively solving it.

Became more attentive in how I communicate.

- In my head I communicate very fluently with no hiccups (don’t we all) be I real life, that not the case and so were my listening skills.

- ‘People know when you can hear them and when are listening to them.’

And most importantly,

Learned the value of practicing my faith daily.

- They say you never understand the true value of what you have until it’s gone. Well, something like that anyway. I remember when I used to read the bible every night, prayed every morning and every night and I can proudly say that in that period I was the best version of myself.

- Here are 5 things that I gained in that period:

1) Peace of mind.

2) Found out that prayer is a form of therapy.

3) Humility.

4) Satisfaction.

5) Low anxiety and depression.

Conclusion:

Celibacy is harder that said to be because to a certain point you must reject majority of the offers/proposals that come your way. Celibacy can trigger depression, anxiety among others, but the benefits that you will experience months to even years into it are exponential. Would I recommend it? Yes. Do I want to keep doing it? Hell no. Do I regret doing it? Absolutely not.

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